Cheryl Wright

Victimization (emotional)

“If it’s never our fault, we can’t take responsibility for it. If we can’t take responsibility for it, we’ll always be its victim.” -Richard Bach

V is for Victimization (emotional)

This post is not about victims per se but those individuals who suffer from the Victim Syndrome. These are people who never do anything wrong yet bad things are always happening to them. No matter what the circumstance they are always the victim. They often use this “victim” identity as an attention seeking technique. And it usually works, for a while anyway, on those who are genuinely of a sympathetic nature. I suppose that if you are the victim you don’t have to take responsibility for any bad behaviors or any problems in a relationship. These great manipulators often use their boo-hoo approach in court, turning the tables on the other party by making it seem they are the injured party. You can often spot a person who suffers from the Victim Syndrome by listening very carefully. If they are constantly bad mouthing an ex, telling non-stop stories of how badly they have been treated by people or never taking the blame for anything at all, let me tell you what you should do….RUN!

Have you ever been the victim of a person who suffers from the Victim Syndrome?

Synonym of victimization – imposture
Antonym of victimization – honesty

Other Blogging From A-to-Z Challenge Posts 2014 (Emotions)
Blogging from A to Z Challenge Theme Reveal 2014

A is for Anger
B is for Bliss
C is for Compassion
D is for Deceit
E is for Envy
F is for Fear
G is for Grief
H is for Hurt
I is for Insecurity
J is for Jilted
K is for Kindness
L is for Love and Loss (of a pet)
M is for Melancholy
N is for Nervousness
O is for Optimism
P is for Pride
Q is for Quizzical
R is for Resentment
S is for Sadness
T is for Thankfulness
U is for Unfeeling
V is for Victimization (emotional)
W is for Worry
X is for XOXO
Y is for Yearning
Z is for Zeal

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Published by Cheryl Wright

Also known as Ms57Classic I came into this world on a summer morning on July 22, 1957. Newborn babies usually do not cry real tears at birth because their tear ducts have not formed yet. But I cried real tears! I have been through many things in my life and have dealt with a multitude of situations and emotions. I have been married and divorced twice. I am an ex-navy wife. I am a mom, a Grammie of 8 (so far), a sister, an aunt, and a friend of longevity. I have a son and a son-in-law in the US Navy and am very proud of their job decision and their accomplishments. My job as a mother is FOREVER. It will not stop when a child of mine reaches the age of 18! I have always been well liked, but not liked by all. I can stretch a dollar like it’s a rubber band. I like the person I am. I graduated from a writing school. I am in the process of writing a book. I graduated from University of Phoenix at the age of 56 with an associate’s degree in Art. I am disabled, having a multitude of health issues. I had a corneal transplant and since then have become an advocate for organ and tissue donation. One of my hobbies is finding those who share the exact birthday as me – July 22, 1957. There is much more ABOUT ME but I guess you will have to follow my blog if you’d like to find these things out : )

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  2. Hey great post! Being victimized by persistent victims – I bet more of us know about that than want to admit it. Trouble is we don’t think of ourselves as victims and don’t like to manipulate others. We don’t dwell on it. Too bad for real victims – it makes us wary of too much sympathy. I suppose that’s where cynicism comes from. Nice insight. I hope you are enjoying the challenge of A-Z. Keep up the good stuff.

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  3. I was married once to a guy who never did a thing wrong and everything bad that happened was always the other person’s fault, shortcoming, or deficiency. It was very stressful for me, and sometimes I fell into the Victim Syndrome. I finally — finally — got out and now I’m married to the most positive-minded realistic, happy man I ever knew.

    People should run far, far away for those who suffer from Victim Syndrome.

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  4. Personally I think a large part of our population plays this game. And because of it I find myself less and less sympathetic and not as quick to act because of it. I am not sure that is a good thing, but I am learning to protect myself before I can help others.

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    • It does seem that a large part of our population plays this game. People don’t take responsibility for their actions. I actually know parents who have lied to police so their child would not get in trouble for something. It’s things like this that make the kids what they are today!

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  5. I’m sure I have, but I’m not sure exactly who. I find this hard to see in others. I know a few people who don’t know how to take responsibility for themselves–a mother and daughter actually (I’m sure there were others when I was younger, but these are the only two now). Sometimes I’ve heard them blame another person when the daughter had issues. Is that the same thing?

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    • I can see this happening a lot in court! It all depends who the people are but I know a few couples that could both claim to be victims….Thank you for reading and commenting on my post.

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  7. While we may be sympathetic to such ‘victims’ a few times, but sooner or later we do realize that these are just attention seeking tactics!

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  8. I have, and it’s very wearing. The person I know will not look at any other side of an issues to see that she doesn’t have to be a victim. She simply has to understand how to respond differently to situations. My frustration builds.

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  9. Yup, I know what you are talking about with this post. There are bouts of bad luck, and then there are people who just lay there and do nothing. People who would sooner starve than make a sandwich, and the reason they feel they are starving is because no one was around to put food on a plate and hand it to them. What’s up with that?

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  10. I do not do well around constant-victim people. I tend to want to fix their problems and of course no one in that streak of woe-is-me wants to hear that. I once had to tell a friend who constantly vented for months about her job (which I had done so I knew her workload) that she needed to do something about it since I didn’t have any more energy to listen to her. I suggested numerous options including looking for a new job. I mean, if you’re miserable, do something!

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