Cheryl Wright

Resentment

“Never hold resentments for the person who tells you what you need to hear; count them among your truest, most caring, and valuable friends.” -Mike Norton

R is for Resentment

Of all the letters in the alphabet the letter “R” was the only one I knew right away which emotion I was going to choose. In my opinion, resentment is the most debilitating emotion there is when dealing with relationships. It is the reason someone once close to me is no longer in my life. I am very much a person who believes in communication. Without it, emotions such as resentment cannot be worked out. I am not a perfect person, who is? I can understand some of the resentment this person holds for me but some of it has been based on untruths that have been told. I did not want to just sweep feelings under the rug and continue on with an unsteady relationship. I did not want to deal with a person covering up their true feelings of bitterness yet acting like everything was fine. Or being someone’s whipping post when feelings of resentment would resurface, like they had. I wanted a close, healthy, loving relationship not one based on animosity felt by the other person. This is why I wanted to talk……but this person did not think it was necessary. Maybe one day this person will realize just how important dealing with resentment is to the foundation of any relationship.

Synonym of resentment – rage
Antonym of resentment – happiness

Other Blogging From A-to-Z Challenge Posts 2014 (Emotions)
Blogging from A to Z Challenge Theme Reveal 2014

A is for Anger
B is for Bliss
C is for Compassion
D is for Deceit
E is for Envy
F is for Fear
G is for Grief
H is for Hurt
I is for Insecurity
J is for Jilted
K is for Kindness
L is for Love and Loss (of a pet)
M is for Melancholy
N is for Nervousness
O is for Optimism
P is for Pride
Q is for Quizzical
R is for Resentment
S is for Sadness
T is for Thankfulness
U is for Unfeeling
V is for Victimization (emotional)
W is for Worry
X is for XOXO
Y is for Yearning
Z is for Zeal

Published by Cheryl Wright

Also known as Ms57Classic I came into this world on a summer morning on July 22, 1957. Newborn babies usually do not cry real tears at birth because their tear ducts have not formed yet. But I cried real tears! I have been through many things in my life and have dealt with a multitude of situations and emotions. I have been married and divorced twice. I am an ex-navy wife. I am a mom, a Grammie of 8 (so far), a sister, an aunt, and a friend of longevity. I have a son and a son-in-law in the US Navy and am very proud of their job decision and their accomplishments. My job as a mother is FOREVER. It will not stop when a child of mine reaches the age of 18! I have always been well liked, but not liked by all. I can stretch a dollar like it’s a rubber band. I like the person I am. I graduated from a writing school. I am in the process of writing a book. I graduated from University of Phoenix at the age of 56 with an associate’s degree in Art. I am disabled, having a multitude of health issues. I had a corneal transplant and since then have become an advocate for organ and tissue donation. One of my hobbies is finding those who share the exact birthday as me – July 22, 1957. There is much more ABOUT ME but I guess you will have to follow my blog if you’d like to find these things out : )

55 comments

  2. Reminds me of this…
    I can trust my friends. These people force me to examine, encourage me to grow.
    ~Cher

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  3. Such a good post and so true. I recently had someone close to me, once again, start something unnecessary. This incident I believe derives from resentment. But not at just me, I think she is a very unhappy person and her resentment is of anyone that has more than she. I don’t know …but she is no longer speaking to me and never even tried to talk about what was bothering her or why she was upset. Communication is very important to me as well. Anyway, I decided to just let her go. I don’t need the negativity and drama etc. It is a shame though. Anyway, great post on resentment. I am enjoying reading your blog. 🙂

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    • If there is a problem it needs to be worked out. Lots of people don’t like confrontation so they pretend that things are fine but underneath they are harboring resentment. I got tired of being a punching bag…either talk to me or see you later! It’s sad that the person who will not talk to me is someone that I love.

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  5. There’s no much “this one’s not talking to that one” in my and my husband’s families that I could write a response here that would be twelve times as long as the post that inspired it. I hope the future holds olive branches for us all. Excellent post.

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  6. Resentment is so destructive. It just eats away until there is nothing left. Whenever I feel it, I try to reject it. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

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    • Resentment certainly is destructive. It slowly eats away at relationships. It’s better to talk something out if there is a problem then let it just fester inside. Thanks for stopping by!

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  7. Resentment is very destructive. It can also be avoided so easily with open communication… though I suppose, open communication isn’t exactly easy… so there’s that. And around and around we go, right?

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    • There are a lot of people that cannot deal with confrontation. It’s hard when you are a person who likes to communicate and work things out and you run into those who would rather sweep everything under the rug. Thanks for stopping by!

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  8. Resentment is the one emotion that you actively have to let go in order to be free. We have to stop holding on the past to really be open in a relationship where there was resentment.
    Great post!
    With great respect! A.

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  9. I still hold some resentment within me and am working on overcoming it. The first step for me was acknowledging the feeling. After that, I was able to slowly work on it and heal. You really do have to be honest and patient with yourself to overcome resentment.

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    • I agree that the first step in dealing with resentment is being honest with yourself. I think some people don’t think they are resentful but if they are open with their feelings they may find that they are. Thank you for reading and commenting on my blog post.

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  10. The problem with the lack of communication is that you can’t even know what they’re going through, why they’re resentful. Hope you’ll get a chance to sort it out!

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    • This is exactly it! I am not a mind reader. If there are things that you are upset with me about I have always been more than willing to sit down and let this person express their feelings. Even if those feelings are of anger…it’s really a sad story (and one I am writing a book about). I hope one day we get a chance to sort it out too. Thank you for reading and commenting on my blog post.

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    • Thank you! I’m not sure if that will ever happen but if this person decides to genuinely talk to me my door will always be open. But I can’t be a whipping post any more! Thank you also for stopping by!

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    • Nice to meet you also! I’ve done well with keeping up with the daily challenges but have gotten way behind in replying to comments. I am now following you. Thanks for stopping by!

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