Relationships need a solid foundation to survive. Love, in my opinion, equals trust, loyalty, respect, and appreciation. But where does privacy fit in? Would you hand the key to your personal diary to someone you love? Would you give your significant other the password to your online accounts such as Facebook?
I believe that people are entitled to their privacy. With the invention of the Internet came a whole new meaning to the word privacy. Or lack of privacy. I have seen email addresses, Facebook accounts, and several other social media accounts that are shared by couples. I know of couples who allow for the sharing of their passwords. If that is acceptable by both then that is their business. There really is no right or wrong answer to the question of sharing online passwords as everyone has the right to their own personal preference.
But for me, privacy is a big issue. I believe all people are entitled to it and should be allowed it, if they so choose. I am a mother to grown children and not once did I ever snoop around their bedrooms, read folded letters that I found in pockets while sorting laundry, or listened to conversations that I was not part of. I have never gone through the wallet of anyone that I have ever been in a relationship with. And I expect the same treatment.
My decision to keep all passwords to myself has nothing to do with being deceitful and everything to do with trust. I am trustworthy! When I am in a relationship I am committed and dedicated. I have never cheated on anyone in my whole life! I can actually talk to men and not have some hidden agenda to be with them. I wouldn’t want my significant other to follow me around at work so that he could listen to every conversation that I had and I certainly wouldn’t want him reading my email!
If love equals trust, as in believing a person is trustworthy, why should passwords matter?
If love equals loyalty, as in believing a person is faithful, why should passwords matter?
If love equals respect, as in honoring a person’s privacy, why should passwords matter?
If love equals appreciation, as in being grateful for the relationship you have, why should passwords matter?
I guess what it all boils down to, with me, is that I believe that when I am in a relationship I want that person to take me at face value. I need to feel I am trusted. I don’t feel the need to have someone’s password and I think I would question the motives of anyone who would ask for mine.
What do you think? Should the words “share my passwords” be part of the wedding vows? Should you be entitled to the passwords of the one you love? Or should that secret phrase, of letters, numbers, and symbols be strictly confidential?