Should you share your online passwords with your significant other?



Image courtesy of Gualberto107/

Image courtesy of Gualberto107/

Relationships need a solid foundation to survive. Love, in my opinion, equals trust, loyalty, respect, and appreciation. But where does privacy fit in?  Would you hand the key to your personal diary to someone you love? Would you give your significant other the password to your online accounts such as Facebook?

I believe that people are entitled to their privacy. With the invention of the Internet came a whole new meaning to the word privacy. Or lack of privacy. I have seen email addresses, Facebook accounts, and several other social media accounts that are shared by couples. I know of couples who allow for the sharing of their passwords. If that is acceptable by both then that is their business. There really is no right or wrong answer to the question of sharing online passwords as everyone has the right to their own personal preference.

But for me, privacy is a big issue. I believe all people are entitled to it and should be allowed it, if they so choose. I am a mother to grown children and not once did I ever snoop around their bedrooms, read folded letters that I found in pockets while sorting laundry, or listened to conversations that I was not part of. I have never gone through the wallet of anyone that I have ever been in a relationship with. And I expect the same treatment.

My decision to keep all passwords to myself has nothing to do with being deceitful and everything to do with trust. I am trustworthy! When I am in a relationship I am committed and dedicated. I have never cheated on anyone in my whole life! I can actually talk to men and not have some hidden agenda to be with them. I wouldn’t want my significant other to follow me around at work so that he could listen to every conversation that I had and I certainly wouldn’t want him reading my email!

If love equals trust, as in believing a person is trustworthy, why should passwords matter?
If love equals loyalty, as in believing a person is faithful, why should passwords matter?
If love equals respect, as in honoring a person’s privacy, why should passwords matter?
If love equals appreciation, as in being grateful for the relationship you have, why should passwords matter?

I guess what it all boils down to, with me, is that I believe that when I am in a relationship I want that person to take me at face value. I need to feel I am trusted. I don’t feel the need to have someone’s password and I think I would question the motives of anyone who would ask for mine.

What do you think? Should the words “share my passwords” be part of the wedding vows? Should you be entitled to the passwords of the one you love? Or should that secret phrase, of letters, numbers, and symbols be strictly confidential?

Another Versatile Bloggers Award!


20140528-233718Wow! Another Versatile Bloggers Award! I would like to thank for nominating me. When you get a chance please stop by and check out this awesome blog.

Here are the rules for accepting The Versatile Bloggers Award
1. If you have been nominated create a post to thank that person. Link your post back to their blog.
2. Nominate 10 other bloggers that you believe deserve this award. Link back to their blog. Notify them to let them know of the nomination.
3. Share 7 facts about yourself.
*Please know that accepting is voluntary.

So here goes…..
7 facts about me
1. I am very afraid of thunder and lightning storms.
2. I am allergic to dust mites.
3. I did not get my driver’s license until I was 25 years old.
4. Many years ago I completed a 16 week data entry training program in 12 weeks.
5. My middle name is Ann.
6. I collect angels.
7. I have a rare condition called Plantar Fibromatosis.

My nominees for The Versatile Bloggers Award are:

Accepting The Liebster Award



leibster-e1400545410460 (1)It is with great honor that I accept The Liebster Award. Thank you to Sandra for nominating me. It is very much appreciated! You can find her awesome blog here at

The Liebster Award is not an actual award but more a chain blog that bloggers pass around to each other. It’s for fun! And who knows, you may pick up a new follower or two : )

With this award come tasks that have to be done. I must share 11 random facts about myself, there are questions for me to answer, a list of my nominees, and questions that I want to ask those nominees. So here goes….

Sharing 11 random facts about me:

1. I am happiest when I am single.
2. I love the smell of gasoline.
3. I have never smoked pot or taken any other recreational drug.
4. I have a cat named Rabbit.
5. My great-grandparents were both deaf mutes.
6. I have friends that go back almost 40 years.
7. I have been a Parent Aide for New Hope (a place that helps abused women).
8. My favorite color is green.
9. I once cooked broccoli by cutting off the tops and cooking the stems (hey, I didn’t
10. I went to the store a few weeks ago with my shirt on backwards (noticed it while I was shopping. Good thing there was a restroom).
11. I am seriously thinking of going back to college to obtain a Bachelor’s Degree in Creative Writing.

Questions asked by Sandra for me to answer

1. Tell us something that you honor about yourself.
My character is what I honor about myself. Anyone who truly knows me will agree that I am honest, never deceitful, and trustworthy. I treat all living things with respect. I am very fair. I am kind and compassionate and help those in need when I can. I respect authority. I like the person I am!
2. Your family
I honor the way that my family is always there to help each other. They also offer unconditional love.
3. Your home
I honor the comfortable feeling my home gives. Within its walls are the feelings of peacefulness, safety, and love.
4. Your community
I honor the way my community will pull together in times of crisis. My community is always helping those who are in need.
5. Your country
I honor my country for the freedom that it offers. I honor those who make this possible by serving in the US military.
6. What brought you to the world of writing?
I come from a long line of writers so I have always been exposed to the art of writing. I like expressing my feelings through the written word.
7. What keeps you writing?
I love writing!
8. What enlivens you?
Nothing lifts my spirits more than time spent with children and grandchildren.
9. How and where do you engage with nature?
I am lucky as I have a backyard that is filled with nature. I have a large yard that goes into woods. I am only a window away from plants and trees, butterflies and bees, and animals such as deer, turkeys, birds, fox, rabbits and nasty snakes…lol
10. Do you feel connected to a particular place?
I think the one place I feel most connected to is Massachusetts. It is where I was born and raised. It is home.
11. And/or do you feel that you write out of this place?
Not exactly sure what this means.

Nominees for The Liebster Award are:


Questions for these nominees are:

1. My biggest pet peeve is…..
2. What punctuation mark best describes your personality? Why?
3. Is the glass half empty or half full?
4. If you were blind for the rest of your life what would you miss seeing the most?
5. If you could have one super power what would it be? Why?
6. When did you last write a handwritten letter?
7. If you could mix 3 animals together, which ones would you choose to make the ultimate animal?
8. If you were given 3 wishes what would you wish for?
9. If you could have picked your first name what would it have been?
10. What are your goals in life?
11. How has the Internet affected your life?

The Official Rules Of The Liebster Award
If you have been nominated for The Liebster Award AND YOU CHOOSE TO ACCEPT IT, write a blog post about the Liebster award in which you:
1. Thank the person who nominated you, and post a link to their blog on your blog.
2. Display the award on your blog — by including it in your post and/or displaying it using a “widget” or a “gadget”. (Note that the best way to do this is to save the image to your own computer and then upload it to your blog post.)
3. Answer 11 questions about yourself, which will be provided to you by the person who nominated you.
4. Provide 11 random facts about yourself.
5. Nominate 5 – 11 blogs that you feel deserve the award, who have a less than 1000 followers. (Note that you can always ask the blog owner this since not all blogs display a widget that lets the readers know this information!)
6. create a new list of questions for the blogger to answer.
7. list these rules in your post (You can copy and paste from here.) Once you have written and published it, you then have to:
8. Inform the people/blogs that you nominated that they have been nominated for the Liebster award and provide a link for them to your post so that they can learn about it (they might not have ever heard of it!)

Summer Biannual Blogathon Bash 2014



blogathonsummerToday is the official start of the Summer Biannual Blogathon Bash.  If you have never heard of this event, it was created and is run by Kathleen Garber.  The purpose of this bash is to get 24 hours of blogging tasks done within the time frame of June 20 – June 23.  Prizes will be awarded.  This is my first time participating in this blogging event.

There are a multitude of tasks that go with blogging.  Creating content is not the only function of a successful blogger.  There is finding or creating images, managing the blog such as replying to comments, updating, establishing an online presence using social media, and adverting your blog.  And that is not everything that needs to be done continuously.  Just finding the time to do anything blog related is a task in itself.

My goals for this blogging task are as follows:

Catch up on all email (I have over 1000).

Catch up on all blog comments.

Catch up on award blogs (I have two I have yet to accept). <— Got one done

Work on updating Pinterest

Work on updating +Google

Make a list of things I want to blog about

Create a blog schedule

Check out the blogs of other Biannual Blogathon Bash participants and follow, like, or comment.

As soon as I am done with a task I will come back to this blog post and cross it out.  On June 24th I will add the hours that I spent on the blogging tasks.  Let's see if I can make the 24 hour mark!

UPDATE – As the saying goes, "You win some, you lose some." Lots of things interfered with my being able to dedicate 24 hours to bloging tasks. I did get a little over 6 hours in though. Better luck next time!

6 Month Anniversary of Plucking Of My Heartstrings




It has actually been 6 months and 12 days since I launched this blog. I haven’t been as active as I would like to be due to medical problems but I’m hoping that things will get better soon.

First I would like to THANK all those who have visited, followed, commented, and/or LIKED my Facebook Page. Taking the time to stop by Plucking Of My Heartstrings is very much appreciated! I am still working on Twittter, +Google, and all the other things that come along with being a dedicated blogger. There is so much more to blogging than just putting some words out in cyberspace. You certainly can become overwhelmed! I now have a new appreciation for all those who blog as a career!

On January 1st, 2014 I posted my first blog post, Lethal Lottery – The Death Penalty. I then went on to blog on a variety of subjects. I also had the opportunity to be a participant in the 2014 Blogging from A to Z April Challenge of which I successfully finished. This has been an awesome experience for me and I couldn’t do it without all of you.

I will be posting blog stats again on the birthday of Plucking Of My Heartstrings which will be January 1, 2015. I will be celebrating by having another giveaway.

Here are Plucking Of My Heartstrings 6 month blog stats. As of this post I have 472 followers,
548 Facebook LIKES, and 4, 493 blog views. Below you will find views by country.

Country Views
United States 3,668
United Kingdom 249
Canada 113
India 103
Australia 56
South Africa 37
Philippines 31
Switzerland 27
Ireland 26
Hong Kong 20
Germany 20
Malaysia 19
Brazil 9
Poland 8
Thailand 7
United Arab Emirates 6
Saudi Arabia 6
Israel 6
Singapore 6
Netherlands 6
Trinidad and Tobago 5
Pakistan 5
Spain 4
Norway 4
Mexico 3
France 3
Sweden 3
Indonesia 3
Macedonia, the Former Yugoslav Republic 3
Republic of Korea 3
Bahamas 3
Qatar 2
Turkey 2
Romania 2
Kenya 2
Tunisia 2
Estonia 2
New Zealand 2
Jamaica 2
Taiwan 2
Italy 1
Venezuela 1
Finland 1
Fiji 1
Malta 1
Iraq 1
Colombia 1
Greece 1
Portugal 1
Bulgaria 1
Slovenia 1

Versatile Bloggers Award

Wow! My first blog award…


I would like to thank Arlene of for nominating me for the Versatile Bloggers Award. It will be an honor to display this trophy on my website. Arlene is also a versatile blogger and has also won this award. Her website offers a variety of great blog posts on different genres. You can find DIY projects, recipes, and reviews just to name a few. Check out this great website at

Seven little known facts about me:

1. The doctor who delivered me had never done so before. I was the first!
2. My mom and I were pregnant at the same time and delivered only a month apart.
3. I blew out the speakers on a television by listening to music too loud.
4. Duct tape is the only tool I need.
5. I am afraid to plug in anything electrical.
6. I talk to my cat as if she is human.
7. When I am in a book isle at a store I often visualize my own book being displayed there.

Now for the drum roll please……..My nominees for the Versatile Bloggers Award are as follows:

Now for the rules:

1. If you have been nominated create a post to thank that person. Link your post back to their blog.
2. Nominate 15 other bloggers that you believe deserve this award. Link back to their blog. Notify them to let them know of the nomination.
3. Share 7 little known facts about yourself.

Happy Memorial Day?


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“We cherish too, the poppy red that grows on fields where valor led. It seems to signal to the skies that blood of heroes never dies.”   -Moina Michael


© Cheryl Wright 2014, Barrows Park, North Attleboro, MA

I find it odd that the word happy would be used as an adjective to describe Memorial Day.  After all, there really isn’t anything happy about it.  Isn’t it supposed to be a day of remembrance of those military personnel who have made the ultimate sacrifice?  To me it seems appreciative would be a better word choice.

Maybe it is because I am a military mom with a son and a son-in-law in the Navy that makes me a bit upset when I hear people refer to this somber day as a day to party and have fun! I have had the privilege to find other military moms on the Internet, some who have first-hand knowledge that freedom comes with a price.  And that price was the very child who once grew under their heart. In my opinion forgetting the importance of this day is disrespecting the memory of those who have died in the line of duty for a hot dog and a beer.

Vietnam Memorial

© Cheryl Wright 2014, Barrows Park, North Attleboro, MA

Memorial Day Weekend is the second most popular holiday (4th of July being the first) where it seems the only thing being honored is the barbecue grill.  Many can find the time to go shopping for a bathing suit but cannot spare the time to actually honor, in some way, those men and women who died serving this country. Memorial Day should not be known as the beginning of summer, store sales, or a day off from work or school. Military members and their families take this day very seriously. And to be honest, when the true meaning of this holiday gets lost somehow it is like a slap in the face!


© Cheryl Wright 2014, Barrows Park, North Attleboro, MA

Once known as Decoration Day, a day in which people decorated the graves of fallen soldiers has turned into Memorial Day, a day in which many graves are ignored and neglected.

I wonder how many know about the National Moment of Remembrance.  All Americans, as an act of national unity, are asked to reflect and remember our fallen heroes at 3:00 pm on Memorial Day.  Will you be taking a few moments to reflect and remember the reason you are able to live so free?

Here is the real definition of Memorial Day. It is the day in which we honor and remember those military members who never came home. Period!

© Cheryl Wright 2014

Check out this song. It’s awesome and always seems to make me cry.

A to Z Challenge Reflection

A-to-Z Reflection [2014] (1)I do not remember what I was looking for (something blog related I’m sure) when I hit the search button on Goggle and there it was, the link for the Blogging from A to Z Challenge website. It was the first website in a long list of search results. Was it fate? I think so….

I am a new blogger who had just started a blog on January 1, 2014. I had never heard of a blog hop or a linky list before and I was quite intrigued. After reading all the information on the Blogging A to Z Challenge I decided to participate as it sounded not only challenging, but fun.

I decided my blog theme would be emotions. Some of the letters were a real challenge! And well, some posts fell a little short of being an actual emotion.

I am proud to say that I blogged every single day of the challenge without missing a day or having any blogs written ahead of time. With the medical problems that I deal with on a daily basis just being able to be on the computer long enough to write and post a blog every day was a challenge in itself!

My main focus was on making sure that I posted each day. After that I was busy visiting, commenting, following, whatever I could do for fellow A to Z Bloggers. My medical conditions, however, did cause me to fall way behind in this part of the challenge. I am still working on catching up though….and then I am hoping to hit the list again (as long as it’s still there) and this time I will be able to spend more time liking Facebook pages and following on Twitter. So you will be seeing me around : )

This blog challenge also allowed me to not only connect with other bloggers but to read blogs from very talented and creative individuals. I read many blogs that made me laugh, made me sad, made me think, and taught me things…

The A to Z team and participating bloggers who I had the opportunity to interact with during this challenge were all very nice and super supportive. I obtained many followers, many likes, and many comments, of which I am extremely grateful.

A HUGE thank you to all those who took the time to visit, comment, follow, like or tweet a blog post of mine, liked my Facebook page, ect….It was all very much appreciated!

Being this was my first year I do have a question. There were times when I came upon a website that no longer existed or my virus protection detected a threat. Should we be informing someone of this, and if so who?

The Blogging from A to Z Challenge was an awesome experience! You’ll definitely be seeing me again next year!



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“Zeal without knowledge is fire without light.” -Thomas Fuller

ZWhen you have feelings of energy toward something that would bring about a rewarding experience you are dealing with emotional zeal. Many people have a zealous feeling for God, sports, a particular goal, or a cause that is important to them. There are quite a few things that I have a passion for. Since my corneal transplant I have been an advocate for organ and tissue donation. I have written several articles that pertain to this meaningful cause. I also have an eagerness for finding those who share the exact same birthday as I do (month, day, year). It has become a hobby of mine and over the years I have found hundreds of my “birthday twins.” Zeal can also bring about negative energy also such as when a child throws a temper tantrum because they want something. Zeal is also an English girl name and it means passion.

Synonym of zeal – devotion
Antonym of zeal – disinterest

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“Restriction generates yearning. You want what you cannot have.” -Portia deRossi

YIf you are part of a military family you know only too well the feeling of longing when a loved one is deployed. All involved deal with sadness, worry, and wanting that military member home. When someone we love dies it leaves a deep pain in our heart and we yearn for how things used to be. I know I will forever yearn for my parents. The winter this year has been extremely cold and long which has left many of us wanting the warmer weather of spring.

Not only do I long for my parents but I also yearn for my children and grandchildren who live far away (my son and son-in-law are in the Navy and both live in other states). I have missed so many holidays, celebrations, and my grandchildren growing up.

Yearning can sometimes cause depression. It can also be a motivator in accomplishing a goal.

What do you yearn for?

Synonyms of yearning – craving
Antonym of yearning – disinterest

A song about yearning…..

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